You buy the amulet of mara from maramel at the temple of mara in rifte, wear this while talking to a female and it will say "are you interested?". say yes then go back and speak to maramel again to arrange the marriage. If he is not at the temple he can be found in the pub.
i have amulet on can marry others but shewont respond and dnt show a quest
Perhaps your not her type :)
is she bugged causeshes on the list to marry and followed guide but she wont say what i need to do
There are quite a few characters in the game that are supposed to be able to marry, but the option never comes up for them. It's a glitch. I've wanted to marry Lydia, Whiterun's Housecarl, but I can't. Hopefully the patch will fix this(and many other glitches)